I guess I may be different from most other girls in my thinking. Just coz you flirt or spend time with a guy, doesn't mean it will end up being a relationship. Sure, that is the aim of most people, to flirt and eventually find a 'right' or 'good' guy. But to go into it with just that aim in mind, is pretty restricting to me. Personally, I don't mind flirting or spending time with a guy, without looking beyond that. Sure, if it works out, that's best. If not, I still am pretty alright with things, as long as I'm happy, or I enjoyed the experience.
I believe in enjoying the present, living in the moment and taking things as they come. Everything else beyond the present, just let it come. I am known to be a worrywart when it comes to planning my future, but in regards to boy-girl relationships...after all that I've been through, all the complications, I've learned that there is no right or wrong, nothing much that can be planned so far in advance. It's easy to judge others for whatever they do. You may say, "Why did they do that? How can they be so etc etc." But when the situation comes and you find yourself in the similar predicament, it's hard to say much about it.
Things happen without you expecting it and for a reason, somehow, no matter how weird/shitty/messed up it can be. Life is unexpected, never say you will never go through or do that. I guess I view everything that happens as a learning experience, so as to not repeat my mistakes. It does make me grow and change my perceptions/thinking about certain issues. I think I have stopped judging what others do and become more open-minded. Of course, I may express my concern over things, but never to say what is right or wrong. But maybe to tell them, to keep their eyes open and be careful. Take things as they come, one step at a time. There is no rush or 'right' timing.
Over the last few years, I've gotten a lot of flak about who I hang out with and what I've done or am doing. Honestly, if you aren't someone I care about, I could care less about what you think. Of course, it starts becoming a concern when family and close friends start talking about it. Yet, I do realise, that most of them may not be as open-minded as I am about things. Something I may not think is a big deal, is a huge issue for them, maybe because they're slightly more traditional about it. My response? Life is short, why do we need to get worked up over things like that, when we should be living it up. Enjoy life to the fullest, try out every experience possible, as long as we're not doing anything illegal, or hurting people. Relationships between a guy and a girl, as long as they know what they're doing, and the consequences...is between the two of them.
I no longer believe in living based on what others say you can or can't do. Seriously, who are these people to be able to dictate all that we do? Who are they to make the rules? Besides, I think most rules are meant to be broken. It is MY life, so it's MY rules. As long as I am happy with what I have, and what I'm doing and I'm not hurting anyone, then I'll do things as I please. Again, life is seriously too short to worry about what others think. Make yourself happy before making others happy, even if they are your significant other. You should always love yourself before someone else. After all, before and during marriage, you are your own person. Even after marriage, you are still a person, not just the partner of whoever it is. With my current schedule, I have no free time to waste on thinking about the haters. You can't please everyone so just forget them.
